My communication style is an analyzing one. It revealed that I appreciate clarity, data, order, and rules and that I expect fairness. This manifests in me asking many clarifying questions and trying to make sure protocols are in place so that we are very clear on responsibilities and expectations. However, my need for order, clarity, and fairness is perceived as me being “rigid”, inflexible” and at times “not a team player.” This is most manifested at work when I try to clarify who should go to the operating room that day or who is responsible for a certain case. I asked my colleagues for feedback and was told that stating the rules as the reason for why this task should be done by them is “annoying”. It was recommended that I state other reasons, such as “I had a long call and I need help”. Honestly, this does not feel right or authentic to me at all. How does one balance being authentic and true to oneself with how we want to be perceived? Is this mitigation a form of people pleasing?
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